Oh my god, Are you a Bi Sexual?
People respond to such things as someone just asked for half of the shares in their property. Chill out fellas, it’s just how they are born, it should not be treated as a taboo and by the way, who gave you authenticity to judge anyway?
The real irony is, the people who should be most supportive about it are the one who are most against it, PARENTS.
Parents around the globe face a real hard time making peace with the fact that their children’s gay. (Oops, I used the word “gay”) Recent case comes up when a ‘concerned’ mother posted a question in Quora regarding what to do with her 16-year old lesbian (Sorry, I did it again) daughter.
She posted the question, and replies she got in exchange were quite amusing.
“SEEING A GIRL IN HER CLASS FOR MONTH OR SO NOW. I WANT HER TO HAVE A TRADITIONAL LIFE WITH A HUSBAND AND KIDS. I HAVE FORBIDDEN HER FROM SEEING THE GIRL FOR AN INFINITE PERIOD OF TIME. WHAT ELSE SHOULD I DO? “
1) This user pointed out her “repressive” move.
Ever heard of those stupid school time crushes and butterfly feelings? Well, if you would try to control these feelings within her, they would grow much stronger cause she would take it a challenge to fight for her “love”, crossing the lines and what not.
You gotta understand that separating her from her special someone, whether it’s a boy or a girl, would only make her more dedicated and strong and you would be left as the Villain in their beautiful Love Stories. You can’t just change someone according to your will and force them to be someone they just aren’t, it’s like stealing their individuality and their rights to love and live. Holding on isn’t a solution here, so just let her go and if you are concerned about her being sexual active, then have a good, warm discussion with her regarding the same and let her know the things she needs to know. Ignorance sometimes isn’t a bliss.
2) How do you define “Traditional Life”?
Having a traditional life doesn’t mean she should be a mother of two and would be waiting for her husband at evening, it isn’t even guaranteed that marrying and having a “family” would give her a happy life.
What if she doesn’t want to marry ever? What if she doesn’t do the things you dream of? And what is this shouting over the term “Bisexual”? It just means she is attracted to both men and women and that doesn’t make her any less of a normal human being.
It may sound rough and tough but accept her the way she is or you would end up losing your beautiful daughter. It may seem hard, but you should act like a matured parent here. She talked about it with you personally, which means she trusts you and hope for you to understand the situation, don’t just stab her believes. We are in 2017, do not behave like a narrow minded human being, leave aside your miss perceptions and accept her the way she is.
3) Acceptance is the key.
“What else should I do?”
Really? You think you can control her insights by locking her in home? You know what you can do? You can let her live, live her life the way she wants to, the way she dreams of. Without the need of explaining her moves or sexual preferences. Act matured and support her in every difficulty, she needs you.
4) Being there for one’s kid is 101 rule of parenthood.
The foremost part you should play as a parent is being supportive of her decision. You could never control or deviate the natural attracts but if you keep on forcing yours views on her, you would create a lacunae between you two which would be hard to fill. It’s no more about your life and decisions, it’s about hers too, so let her be. You are just creating the hatred which was not there in first place, stop treating her as if she is diseased or abnormal. Parenting is all about being an understanding human she can count upon, encourage her, protect her from wrong but don’t force her to be a different version of her.
5) Short and Simple piece of advice.
Take back you order, say sorry and live happily. Her sexuality should not be a big issue for you. Being a sexual minority is never easy, she wants your support not your narrow mindset. So, do every damn thing which makes her happy..!
For all we can add is, it’s their life and it should be their choice how to lead it. Love them, because they need more of it.