It was a different time when our grandparents met and fell for each other. Relationships were considered as emotional wealth for individuals. The scenario has been anything but that ever since.
Relationships these days are made for needs, wants and to fill an empty space that comes with corporate culture and staying away from parents. Bonds and affairs people now have are not often just because you are in love. Love: The Big ‘L’ word. Too much pressure exists on the term ‘LOVE’, like, it should be true, unconditional, honest, faithful, loyal and most of all it should be forever. Since the world was seeing less of love around them the catharsis happened with more intense love stories, more movies, and more books. There was also a rise in topics like attraction, friends with benefits, open relationships etc. the stress being on the absence and presence of the real feeling of love between two people.
Our environment suggested that when it is Love it will have all those notions attached to it. It will be unconditional, forever, etc. Al. And that is why saying to somebody meant committing to feel all of it. Saying “I Love You” would mean actually giving out your heart to somebody, and that is now a truly difficult task. Just like it is difficult to trust somebody this blindly. We cant say it because we are not sure, some people don’t want to hear it because they don’t want to get hurt later. Later when (they assume) things wont be as perfect as they imagined it to be. In gossip girl when Chuck said it to Blair she thought he must have just said it in the moment and might not actually mean it later. To say that you LOVE somebody is almost like you are proposing.
The ‘L’ word unlike the popular belief is not the end all destination of relationships. You probably do not even know that you are in love already with your live-in partner, with your ex girlfriend, with your best friend maybe! Love does not come with warning signals, it might feel like just an emotion but it might be defining your future slowly and gradually. When you wake up every morning and crave to see her around you, when you wake up every morning to the sound of him brewing coffee just the way you like it for you, when you cannot wait to cal him and tell about this silly thing that happened at work and when growing old together does not need any sort of planning it is LOVE.
Its so easy to build walls around ourselves and protect ourselves from feeling so strongly about any other person. It is indeed difficult to actually fall for somebody, acknowledge being in love and wanting to change the world for that man/woman just so you can have a life together. Love might just be the stability we all are looking for with every job we are jumping and every city we are moving to in search of inner peace and content. Give it a thought do you fear the ‘L’ word or you like most others in the world cannot wait for it to finally happen and make your world spin around!
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